Monday, November 20, 2017

Week of 11/20/2017

America’s Misandry
Attention my fellow American males!
I have a simple warning for us all.
We are all screwed!
I am not kidding about this.  I wish I were.  If you have male genitalia and you are currently breathing and have a pulse and you live in America, you are now a potential target for those seeking payback for the worst of the worst of our gender.
It’s a dangerous and destructive trend in this country.  We overreact to some action with another one that is just as bad.  And it’s not quid-pro-quo either.  It’s making everyone pay for a sin of the few.  An affront somewhere leads to a counter-affront everywhere.
When Anita Hill exposed a United States Supreme Court justice nominee as being a possible sexual harasser, it didn’t stop his confirmation.  It did start a trend of making every male not rich or powerful or politically-connected go through sexual harassment “training” to learn what good guys already know.  That you don’t treat women like objects.  That women are not there “for you”.  They couldn’t make Clarence Thomas pay the price for his actions, so the rest of the men who aren’t rich or powerful or politically-connected had to pay in his place.
This was the start of America’s creeping misandry; the hatred of men just for being men.
Just a few years after Clarence Thomas was confirmed in defiance of the accusations of sexual harassment, the conservatives countered with President Bill Clinton and his multiple accusations of infidelity.  Because this is what American politics does now. It counters an affront with another affront.  Negation through equivocation.  Liberal women went after Thomas, so conservative men would go after Clinton, and, later, his wife, and at first it was because of her husband.  Soccer moms versus NASCAR dads. 
Of course, they didn’t succeed in getting rid of President Clinton, even after being the second sitting president impeached in American history.  But that didn’t matter, because conservatives had their counter-affront for Justice Thomas.  Negation through equivocation.
Today we are going through it all over again.
It started with then-candidate Donald Trump.  The perpetual overexaggerated and overly-self-promoted narcissistic clown act had a history with women that was far from gentlemanly, and that was before the infamous “grab ‘em” tape from 2005 was made public.  But that didn’t stop him from being elected and sworn-in as President of the United States.  And when women protested with their pink hats, they were scolded and mocked.  How dare they!  How dare they be mocked!
Then came the inability to convict Bill Cosby, “America’s granddad”, for his so-called “dating” practices.  And then Harvey Weinstein.  And “the hashtag”.  And Brett Rattner.  And Louis C.K.  And Oliver Stone.  And Kevin Spacey.  And suddenly every sin came out.  Every foul joke, every bad comment, every weird proposition ever made by anyone with male genitalia, no matter how ancient, suddenly became the new unforgivable act that demands immediate atonement.  Jason Momoa made a bad joke way back when and now he’s being judged and asked to atone for it instead of celebrating his breakout role in “Justice League” with his newly-married wife and kids.  His co-star Ben Affleck faces the same pompous misandrist judgement for things he did eleven years previously.
And now we have America’s ayatollah, the dishonorable Judge Roy Moore, and the multiple accounts of him preying on teenaged girls decades ago.  And, no matter what, both he and his equally pompous and self-righteous religious crusaders and defenders refuse to back down.  He may be elected to the United States Senate, to fill the seat that was vacated by the man who actually had a woman arrested and prosecuted for heckling his confirmation hearing as Attorney General!  Why?  Because it is supposedly a greater “sin” in Alabama to elect a Democrat than it is to elect a suspected serial predator of young girls!  That is no sane kind of “family value” that anyone should ever be proud of! 
Then there is the recent revelation that current U.S. Senator and former comedian Al Franken groped a former model from eleven years ago.  And she had a picture to prove his douchebag moment. 
Will he resign?  Maybe.  But the sheer hypocrisy of President “Grab ‘Em” Trump calling out Franken’s actions but not those of the dishonorable Alabama judge is nothing short of pouring salt and lemon juice on our national wound.  Here is a president that will never be held to account for his past actions hypocritically attacking the senator that does own up to his mistake, and then staying silent about the senate candidate who did far worse than just pose for a photo or press for a kiss or a grope. 
Yeah, none of these men are shining examples of the male gender.
So I have to ask this question to the women…
How far will this whole thing go?  How long before the rest of the male populace in America are scrutinized and judged and condemned for every little comment or bad joke or bad maneuver in their past?
I’m already seeing this turn towards the common male with the calls for new so-called “sensitivity seminars” in workplaces, which means any kind of joke that involves gender or references someone of another gender will now be “forbidden”.  How many ordinary hard-working men will lose their jobs because of an off-color comment made in the break room five years ago just because you can’t get justice for what Roy Moore or President Trump did?  How long before someone like me becomes a victim to the creeping misandry because they once had a subscription to Playboy Magazine or liked a certain raunchy comedian?  Because now you would be making this personal. 
And all because you can’t get Bill Cosby convicted, or get Donald Trump to resign, or because Roy Moore and his supporters won’t do the sane thing and crawl back under their Southern rocks.
Everyone needs to understand this: when this gets down to my level, there is no “debate” or “dialogue” or “discussion” on the subject.  There is lecture and policy and prohibitive action with people yearning to make an easy actionable statistic at anyone’s expense.  There is accusation, persecution, and conviction without any means of defending yourself.  “Oh, you lost your job?  Too bad.  Now you know how ‘they’ feel.”
Except that we don’t.  Because when you get down to my level, we are not the ones that have any kind of power, never mind over someone of another gender.  We are just the poor peons that are just trying to get bills paid and families fed and keep the bank from taking away our home and our sole means of transportation.
Because let’s get brutally here… when you bring this matter down to my level, you are no longer going after men in power.  You’re just going after men for being men.  In other words, you’re carrying out misandry, which is just as wrong as misogyny.  And I would hope that your mothers taught you that two wrongs still do not make a right.
As long as you keep the subject to the actual people with power… people like Harvey Weinstein, Brett Rattner, President Trump, Kevin Spacey, former President Bill Clinton, the Fox News executives and media personalities, you will have plenty of support for condemnation and also for change. 
Truth be told, you’ll find a lot of guys think that think these folks are scum as well.  They’re embarrassments to the male gender.  I mean, come on!  Have you seen Harvey Weinstein? 
The problem is the power, not the gender.  That is what you need to focus on.  And when you do that, you will find that the rest of the men, the ones that haven’t yet gotten the memo that this sort of stuff is wrong, will be more conductive to change.
Until we know that line is drawn, though... men, we’re screwed.

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